Our work force is not the one of our parents. It now includes not only many mothers, but also fathers with a realization that they, too, want to share in their children’s lives. It includes singles who crave a life beyond work. It includes care givers with family members in need of attention. It includes those with a desire to take time off for a temporary stint with a non-profit or to gain more education or to experiment with new career directions.

Employers will profit by understanding that employees cannot always be only employees. Workers will shift goals when a new child is born or a parent needs extra care or a spouse suffers grave medical problems or one’s goals change. If the norm is for most adults to concern themselves with a career from the time they leave school until they retire, we need new patterns to balance our lives.

Long leaves should be expected from time to time. This doesn’t mean employers should be on the hook for long periods of salary payments when the employee isn’t working. It does mean an acceptance of the fact that workers will at times need extended periods of leave, even perhaps several years. The promise of reinstatement when the employee is ready to reenter the work force, within limits, as well as the continuation of medical benefits are items of consideration. Flex time or part-time work or work from home are possibilities in some careers.

The employees, too, must make choices. They cannot expect continued salary for long periods if they leave the work force for an extended time. The American habits of high consumption and low savings need drastic revision. Americans should expect not to work at certain periods in their lives and plan accordingly.

We need a rethinking of career. Taking time off from career for other needs should be the new normal, a normal of choice.