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Social Media Boundary Setting

The well-off in the United States suffer from at least two kinds of gluttony. One is from eating an overabundance of physical food. The other is from overindulging in social media. Protecting ourselves from overindulgence in either requires self discipline.

Particularly in raising our children, we are responsible for properly using what we and they consume in each case.

To eat a proper diet, of course, we know that a healthy diet has to include proper amounts of fruits, vegetables, lean meats, and dairy products as well as guards against too many fatty meats and sweets and junk food.

As soon as we have our first candy bar as children, the race for a disciplined diet is on. For those of us blessed with enough money for food, a healthy diet is the result of disciplined choices, partly the discipline to refuse too many unhealthy foods.

Just as societies had to deal with food discipline as soon as affordable sugar became available to most of the population, so we must deal with the explosion of social media use with the development of the internet.

Boundary setting in the practices chosen by our family members in their use of social media is as important as boundary setting in our choice of foods. Good parenting requires the introduction and encouragement of both healthy foods and healthy habits regarding social media. The junk food kinds of social media should be as limited as candy bars.

We encourage healthy choices in food and in setting limits on junk food. So we also should encourage healthy choices in the amount of time we spend on social media.

Think of social media as dessert, not the main course.

Information Please

“Of course it’s true. I saw it on TV,” the elderly woman said, when pressed for why she believed a certain way about the recent presidential election.

Whether a viewer watches Fox or CNN or uses Facebook or other social media to obtain news, the average American’s grasp of politics and world conditions is apt to be shallow.

Granted, many have little time for reading. Shuttling between jobs and childcare and other obligations leaves some with understandable exhaustion.

However, most of us can read more than we do. We can spend less time on social media and more time reading reputable newspapers and magazines, as well as books (digitally or in print). As a working single parent, I was fortunate to be able to commute by mass transit. I used the time to read books. (I did have to watch that I didn’t miss my stop.)

Americans have access to more information and knowledge than at any time in history, yet we tend to listen and read at a shallow level: Too often, social media and a few commentaries on our favorite digital news outlet take most of our attention.

My husband and I are fortunate to live in a place with a bi-weekly local paper and access to a big city daily. Neither is flush with operating funds.

We might have to wait a while for a best seller, but our local library gives us access to print and digital books on any subject.

Eating and reading share similarities. Junk reading, like junk food, is a detriment to our individual and national health.