Peaceful public assembly is one of our constitutional rights, including peaceful protests. Yet, I find myself turned off by protests, including those whose ideas I endorse.

Protests suggest an us-against-them confrontation that risks the protest turning into a riot or, at best, toward hardening of hearts on both sides.

I prefer writing: opinion pieces, articles, and blogs, for example, print or digital, to protesting. Even more, I like personal conversation between two or a few people. Talking together can be risky, too, of course. People may end up shouting at each other and walking away in anger.

A meaningful dialog requires ground rules. The old practice of first repeating what the other person says until the other says you have correctly understood, before you answer, works well. This slows you down before you launch into your position. If you have listened carefully to the other, you are more likely to answer to what the other really thinks and not to a projected stereotype of your own creation

The idea not only is to respect another’s position but even to become friends. Friends are more likely to reach a position of mutual accord, different from what each began with, but stronger for incorporating views of opposing ideas.

Opposing tension brought together builds a strong bridge.