In our recent Sunday church service, we lighted nine candles for each person murdered in the Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston last week.

Perhaps we should have lighted a tenth candle for the person who shot them, in hopes that he will realize what he’s done and ask forgiveness.

Perhaps we should light a candle for the rest of us, too, that we all may turn our backs on the hatred that tempts us. We may not physically kill, but we in this country often murder by words. We spread lies, exaggerations, and distortions, which is a type of killing.

During the service, I thought of times when I’m uncivil in my thinking toward those with whom I disagree, especially, these days, on political issues. It’s my prayer that God lead us all toward more kindness.

Jesus said no one gets credit for loving those who love us. We are called to love those who hate us. The members of the church who lost family and friends have modeled that way for us in beginning to walk the path of forgiveness.

We are all in need of walking that path.